I find it very interesting how the concept of chivalry is viewed in our day. To me it seems that the concept of chivalry has been boiled down to nothing more than being nice and opening doors for women. From my observations and what women tell me, the latter doesn’t even seem to be happening much lately either. Therefore, it seems to necessary to define what chivalry is and what it is not.
First, chivalry is not supplicatory, it is not emotional neediness, it is not, “I will do nice things for you in the hope that you will reward me with sex.” Chivalry was, and always will be a warrior’s code. It can only be practiced in truth by one who holds power over himself and lives by a code. The concept of chivalry in the west began as a way for young knights returning from the Crusades to interact with others in society. It gave guidelines for men who had experienced extreme violence and hardship to conduct themselves in a peaceful enviornment. It developed from Christian values of honour, charity, and kindness. Chivalry brings out the best in two different aspects of man; the warrior and the poet. The warrior is he who defends the weak and the innocent. The warrior is he who is willing to do battle; spritual, physical and intellectual to defend those things he holds dear. The poet is he who is able to recognize the beauty of the feminine and treat it appropriately. Chivalry was practiced and valued by warriors. Some of the manliest men to walk the face of this planet were practitioners of chivalry, they were men who conquered nations, built
As men yield more and more of their power to women we see chivalry fade day by day. As democracy charges forward with its false “equality” we, at best, live in mediocrity. Thus, chivalric practices become another way to just be “nice”.
The question now remains as to how we can turn the tide around and reinstate chivalric practices. I seems to me that working on ourselves and pursuing our own male destiny would be the best start. We need to live by a code, we need to keep our weapon sharp and ready for battle. That weapon is ourselves, our intellect, our character, if possible our physical prowess. We will gain power over ourselves, and from that position of power we are truly able to treat the opposite sex as we should, as true gentlemen.